My coworker loves to gossip about the staff behind their backs. How do I deal with it when she wants to unload the dirt on me? What if I’m the subject of her chitchat?
1.?Love? your? enemies?
??If ?loving? your? coworkers is? too high of? a? hurdle to stride,use the? work? care instead.?Caring for this? coworker means that you ?will? not? force your convictions? on? her;?you? will? forgive? her? for the offensives? she? has? made? against? you? and? you? will? take? pleasure in? only ?the? truth ?about? her. ?If? this ?seems? impossible?–?you’re ?right,? it? is,?on? our ?own.?
We? must open our heart to? God? and allow His love to? flow? into us? so that we ?can? become the? conduit? of? Love ?to? those? people? who? desire ?evil? against? us.?
2.?Do ?good? to ?those ?who ?hate ?you
–?Kindness? disarms ?hostility.? Find? ways? to ?show ?kindness ?to ?her,? even ?while ?she? continues to gossip or slander you. Raise? the? bar.? You ?have? the ?opportunity ?to ?bring? kindness? and? benevolence ?into? the ?workplace.?
3.?Bless ?those ?who? curse? you?
–?blessings? involves? desiring? good ?things to ?happen ?to? and ?for? others. ?Blessing? is ?the? antithesis ?of ?retaliation.? When? given ?a? chance? to? say? something ?unkind? about ?someone? who? has? been? spreading ?gossip, ?choose ?to? find? something ?good ?to? say ?about ?them.? Follow? the? adage ?“If ?you ?can’t? say? something ?nice,? don’t? say? anything ?at? all.”?
4.?Pray? for ?those ?who ?mistreat? you?
–?As? Christ? hung? on ?the? cross,? he? prayed? for? those ?who ?had? orchestrated? his ?crucifixion.? Praying ?allows? God? to? transplant? our? bruised? heart? with ?a?supple ?heart? that? turns? our? focus? to ?God? rather? than ?the ?mistreatment ?we ?have? received? by? the? words ?of? others. ?True ?heart? change ?will? occur? when? we ?start? praying. It? is ?never? our ?responsibility? to? try? to? change? the? gossiping ?habit ?of? our? coworkers .?We? are? simply? responsible? for ?our? behavior. ?Deciding ?that ?we ?will? not? even? be? a? receiver ?of ?gossip ?will? break? the? cycle.? Being? on ?the? receiving ?end? will? necessitate? a? decision? between? retaliation? and? love.? Treating ?our? enemies? the? way? we ?would? want ?to ?be ?treated ?is ?living? out? the? Golden? Rule.?
Rosemary Flaaten’s successful book,
A Woman and Her Relationships
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A Woman and Her Workplace
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Relationships
book won The Word Guild Award, which is Canada’s top Christian literary honor. A dynamic speaker—Rosemary challenges women of all professions to view their work as a calling and their workplaces as opportunities to live out Christ’s love. Rosemary lives with her husband and three children in Calgary, Canada.
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