Yesterday, my girlfriend asked me what my plans are for Mother’s Day and I froze a little. My husband’s work schedule has been so crazy lately that most of our plans are last minute. It’s been so long now that I’ve grown accustomed to it. I probably know more about what I don’t want than what I do. Last year was nice, my husband bought me flowers, champagne and an amazing mother’s bracelet. I didn’t have to cook all day or worry about the boys. I think I kind of ruined the day for my husband by asking him what street corner he bought my bracelet on. He hasn’t bought me a piece of jewelery in years ( I’m not a big jewelry person.) and I was not expecting this gift. It was too late and I couldn’t take back my comment. I tried to play it off as if I was kidding, but he knows me too well. He had spent a lot of time searching and bargaining for a gift for me. I felt awful. Although, not as awful as I felt on my first Mother’s Day, but that’s a different story..
This year is simple, I want to not have to cook all day. Easy…… No flowers, no gifts, just not to have to cook – easy. Okay, I’ll take the champagne too! Here is how I feel: Time is a gift. I want my husband to do what I do every single day for just one day. I want to read a book, watch a movie, sip a cocktail, and dance to some music uninterrupted. I yawn when I read all these Facebook updates about new appliances, jewelry, cars, or my favorite- the Mothers Day Brunch! Trust me, I need a new washer and dryer. Guess what? I’m buying them this weekend, but that’s definitely NOT a gift. My bracelet was awesome and I didn’t feel the need to post about it. A car- LOL, if you read my ten things last week you know I care nothing for them. Secretly my plan is to drive my car until it can’t drive anymore! It gets me where I need to be and that’s all right by me. Oh and brunch, I’m going, but not a buffet, but to the place my husband and I shared some great times. I don’t foresee many moms being there!
What is it that you REALLY want? I’m sure you might think that you want a new fridge or a necklace or a special meal, but REALLY what do you want? My best Mother’s Day was when My husband and I took our first born son on a hike and rubber duck race. We all had a great time. Isn’t that what it’s all about? Being with your family, laughing and having fun and not about material items. You can buy anything, but you can’t buy time, memories or smiles. That is what Mother’s day should be about and you wouldn’t be having this day if it wasn’t for those tiny little people in your life that you are so desperate to runaway from on this day! Trust me I know!
So, don’t worry about what your friends are doing this Sunday, but think about what would really make you happy. Make it about you. Have a Happy Mother’s Day!