So, I’m switching it up a bit this week. Instead of my usual 10 things post I’ll be posting about 10 Things Never to Say to a Mom. This week I’ve learned it doesn’t really matter what side of the parenting road you fall on. People still have and will make judgements about you. Honestly, it’s all crap. Maybe it’s simplistic, but I’d like to think that as parents our main goals are all the same and that’s to raise happy healthy children. Maybe what we consider to be happy or even healthy are different, but the goal is always the same. So, to make this post even better I’m splitting up between working and stay at home moms. These are the things we moms can’t stand to hear. Please feel free to add more in the comments!
5 Things NEVER to say to a working mom:
5. It must be so hard to let someone else raise your children. You must really trust them.
4. Have you watched the news lately? Did you see what just happened when they hid that camera in that daycare?
3. I remember how my mom never came to school events or field trips. I was so jealous of the other kids.
2. It must be so hard not to feel guilty.
1. I love my children too much to just leave them with a stranger.
5 Things NEVER to say to a stay at home mom:
5. So, what is it that you do all day?
4. Too bad you wasted all that money on a college degree. Thank God your husband is paying off your student loan.
3. You spend all day with your kids. I can’t even imagine how awful that is.
2. Oh, I just assumed your house would so much cleaner considering you don’t work.
1. When do plan on getting a real job?
Why, why, why, do we try to take each other down this way? It’s cruel. I also didn’t even touch the other side that has emerged over the years and that’s the stay at home mom that works/has her own business. I can only imagine what she doesn’t want to hear. Please comment, tell me what you don’t ever want to hear. I get annoyed when I hear any of this because I truly feel that a mom is a mom. The beauty of feminism is that I have a choice. I can go out and work or I can chose to stay home. It’s up to me. Staying at home doesn’t make a woman more womanly and working doesn’t make a woman more like a man. I get a choice and what hurts is when another woman doesn’t respect me for that choice. We are all on the same side. Women have fought for years for the right to make their own choices. Lets not harm other with our language and judgements for that choice. Embrace who you are without breaking others down to do so.