The lessons have been pouring in this Summer. Maybe they have always been there and I’m just more aware of them now. I’m trying to live with intention and be in each moment as it unfolds. This is difficult to achieve at times, but as long as I keep trying I will consider myself successful. As we enter this last month of Summer I plan on putting a plan into place where I can keep this feeling of intention alive. I have identified things that I am unhappy with and my goal is to change and grow. I wish you the same! Here we go again!
I Learned that:
10. you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. ( Sure, I should have known this one and I have, but I forgot. A person is never going to quit a habit until THEY are ready, regardless of how much help you offer them. This has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with them. Only time will tell if they will change their ways.)
9. by complaining less I am able to focus more on all the ways I am blessed. ( If you ask my husband I’m sure he still thinks I complain. I do, but less. LOL!)
8. it is about celebrating the little things in life, not just the big things. ( I’m totally into everyone’s vacation photos, but I’d like to see more of you everyday!)
7. I’m afraid of touching on certain subjects here on my list because I would insult someone and they would take it personally when it was only meant as my opinion. ( No- it has nothing to do with religion or politics)
6. when I am completely overwhelmed people pop out of the woodwork to ask me for favors. ( Then when I say that I am overwhelmed they ignore what I just said and keep insisting or become angry. Both of which are unfair, as I own nothing to anyone, and that once again says more about you than me.)
5. we are probably the only people who I know that never installed their air conditioning. ( I like fans. The weather here in NY has been a bit weird this Summer and honestly if we did have it in we would have only used it maybe 2 or 3 times. After the last hot day my husband said he should put them in and I said, “Why bother at this point?” The kids have never complained and we have a pool. I think it has made us more resilient to the heat.)
4. I seem to be the only person that can lose 12 pounds and have not one person notice. ( Maybe it’s because I never made a huge announcement or posted photos of myself in my underpants. LOL)
3. I waste so much time “not letting things go”. ( Ugh! I know it. I know it. I’m trying so hard, but darn it when I try to go to sleep those things rush into my head.)
2. I need to spend more time with the people who I care about and less time worrying about the ones that don’t care about me. ( This lesson is one that I think everyone needs to learn. Stop spending your time focusing on the party you weren’t invited to, the “friend” that never calls you and start focusing on all the blessing you have in your life. Don’t take advantage of the people who are and have always been there for you.)
1. “accept the win even when no one is clapping.” ( A quote from my favorite #CawfeeTawk video in July. You don’t have anything to prove to anyone. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your gifts, for your wins, or anything that you achieve. Stop waiting for the “likes” the approval of others and just celebrate your win! You deserve it! Do it for yourself.)
Liz Mays says
It sounds like you’re doing a great job of letting go of negative energy and focusing on positive things. I’m so glad you had such an awesome month that way! (But how you manage without A/C… that I just can’t understand.) 😉
Laurie Floyd says
I absolutely love your list! #4 made me laugh out loud!!! Isn’t that the truth??!! But no AC??!!! That wouldn’t work here in Florida….hey I would probably be posting pictures of me in my underwear then because that is all I could wear! LOL!
Ethel says
#10 my biggest lesson in the last 3 months! Though it still hurts.
And if you post pictures of yourself in your underwear, shirt up or anything inappropriate I will not approve ? C
Carrie Chance says
These are great lessons. I especially like #1 at the end about accepting the win
Alicia says
Wow, so many lessons came from this past month! I need to work on letting things go. I tend to over analyze things when I should just let things go!
Devon says
I love your take on life! Don’t worry, you are not alone, I can gain and lose 20 pounds and no one seems to notice 🙂 🙂
Kristin says
I love the accept the win even if no one is clapping. We did way too much this summer, next summer I am planning nothing. ?
Emily says
These are all so important to learn, I have come to a few of these realizations as well. This summer I have let go of my expectations of things and just enjoyed the time with my kids while they are on summer break. Giving me a little slack with maintaining my blog, and just having some much needed fun!
Sapana V says
It’s my goal for this month to loose some weight. Hopefully I will make it.