I’ve had this conversation several times throughout the years with several moms. Our opinions differ about how much a child should be able or allowed to do. Here is my take on it. Quite simply I want my kids to be able to help themselves as much as possible. This morning was a blessing when I was able to ask my 6 year old to make breakfast for my 4 year old while I got ready. Not only did he do it, but he even cleaned up the little bit of milk he spilt without me telling him to do it. Tonight they both helped me make dinner which I believe actually got my little guy to try something new – just because he helped prepare it.
I feel it has been a very positive experience for them when they are actual able to do something for themselves. If I were to do every single thing for them they would never be able to grow or feel empowered. My son was so proud this morning when I asked him to care for his brother. I didn’t know how it was going to go. It could have been a disaster. Sometimes as a parent we have to take chances with our kids, what’s the worst that would have happened? Some spilt milk – oh that did happen and the world didn’t end. They actually cleaned it up!
One of my favorite buys has been this cereal dispenser. My husband said he felt like he was in a hotel when I first brought this home. Now he loves it. The boys can easily help themselves. I also made a snack cabinet that they can reach. I gave up one of my cabinets and filled it with snacks for the boys. At first I had to keep a child proof lock on it, but now I don’t, they simply ask me if they can have something and then get it themselves. I actually had a parent accuse me of “robbing my kids childhood”. What! I don’t really understand how being waited on has anything to do with childhood or my son pouring his own drink in a real glass cup is robbing him of anything. I don’t think my 6 year old would be happier drinking from a sippy cup, scared to spill anything and not able to open a package of cookies by himself, but then again I could be wrong.
So, what’s your take on this topic?
jackie says
I think it's great to have kids help themselves. I'm doing exactly that with my 3 year old son. He is very independent, and I'm glad. He helps me when I cook (even knows what I need when I tell him what we're making), he helps me bake, etc. I want him to be able to do everything on his own. My husband is really great with fixing things, and I've told him that once my son starts getting older, I want him to teach him all of that. That doesn't take away from their childhood, it helps them grow.
Melissa says
ABSOLUTLY! The cereal is up high and and i stock up so they tell me what they want. but then i pour their milk into another smaller tea pot, and i let them pour it themselves. My daughter washes the dishes, and Lorenzo JR wipes down the table. They wont clean up in their playrrom, but help eachother, and help me. I think it creates a stronger bond for them as well
Jessica says
Those are great!
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