So for starters, no I won’t be talking about the election here. Now that I have made that clear let me just say it has been one Hell of week. I feel like I have been hit with a brick more than once. Emotions are running high over here. It’s rainy and dark as I type this and I love it. Rain makes some people sad, but for me it’s cleansing. I know that the sun will shine again. The rain gives me hope.
This week I learned that:
10. if the same thing keeps happening to you and your relationships with people then you need to look at yourself and what you are doing as well. ( Why do you keep attracting these types of people? or Why do you feel people do you wrong? Call you names, etc? I figured this out about myself a little while ago, but I’m posting in hopes it will someone else!)
9. everyone has a Debbie Downer in their life. ( You know that person that always brings up the worst case scenario in every situation. Ugh- you bore me to death with your gloom and doom.)
8. some people believe that listening to a book on tape is the same thing as reading. ( I was blown away when I found out all the books my friend told me she had “read”. How did she find the time? Enter book on tape. While I love books on tape for long car rides etc I don’t consider it reading, more like a movie experience. What do you think?)
7. bullies think that because they are being honest it doesn’t mean that they are being a bully. ( Some things just don’t need to be said. Period! Just because that’s what you honestly think doesn’t make it less hurtful or right for that matter.)
6. I’m bored with people who always have a comeback for anything I say/ go through in life. ( I say, “My son has scoliosis”. You say, “Oh I have scoliosis.” I say, ” It’s tough for me having the boys at 2 different schools.” You say, ” Yes, I have kids at 2 different schools, even though they are right next to each other it’s just as hard as you having your kids at schools that are 30 minutes apart.” Ugh- so bored with YOU! Obviously, you need the attention.)
5. not only do I hate the smell of wet sponges, but I hate the smell of wet towels! ( It’s so gross. I can’t even describe it!)
4. it’s hard to be the one trying to balance everything when everyone is going through something. ( My husband had surgery on his hand and is still in a brace, my son is dealing with a situation at school, and well I guess so is my other son. I’m just trying to keep this ship sailing till we get through this storm.)
3. even when you tell the truth some people might think you are lying. ( I’m all about self-care these days, not obligation. Some people find that hard to believe when I say no to them, but I’m done doing things because it’s expected of me.)
2. I’ve gotten good at letting go of things I can’t control. ( Now that’s a shocker! We had plans for Saturday night and all of our babysitters were sick so we needed to cancel. Back in the day I would have pouted, but I welcomed the change in plans as a sign to slow down.)
1. my kids have unfortunately developed my dislike of large groups of children. ( OMG- we were at the aquarium and several field trips were taking place and my kids were horrified. LOL. They were like, “Get me out of here! Why are they so loud? Can’t they say excuse me?” I said, “If you were here with your friends you’d probably act the same way.” They agreed. )
I have to agree completely about books on tape. They are most definitely not the same as reading. Entertainment, maybe, but not reading.
Being a Life Coach means everyone thinks it is OK to bring me every problem they have. All the time. So is it safe to say that almost everyone seems like a Debbie Downer in my life right now? And then personal do it to. Every time I hear “I need advice” or “Can I pick your brain for a minute?” I know what’s coming. I’m the one that even the hairdressers and bartenders come to.
I don’t like being in large groups of anything, kids included and this is coming from a former Special Ed teacher!
I could relate to all of this, except the rain part, I still hate rain! LOL 🙂
I’ve learned that you have to do things scared. Stepping out when you are certain is easy. But Doing it scared takes guts.
OMG Wet towels are my nemesis. I keep hearing that you can put vinegar in the wash to remove the smell.
Ah the first one you wrote resonated. And I laughed at the last one. Large groups of kids don’t bother me, USUALLY. There are times though… 😉
I agree with the book thing. However, #1 – My kids would not act that way with a large group of kids. One of the reasons why homeschooling has been so easy for us. They usually have despised kids there own age and have preferred to be in adult company. My grown kids get along great with their peers now, but it was rough going for a while!
Sounds like you learned a lot this week. The first really hit close to home with me though.
It’s a good idea to get away from those negative/toxic people in life. And to also examine ourselves to see why we may be attracting them. Hope the rain washed some of these troubles away for you!
I am with you on the Debbie Downer. I also don’t like the negativity and … when someone does that “one up” thing, I take a deep breath. I wonder sometimes if they just are not listening or realize they totally turned the topic onto themselves. These are all great lessons
I do know a debbie downer! I need to send her your way to read this!