The list of things I learned this year is long. Longer than my 10 things, but here are a few things that I’ve learned as we are closing out the year. Frankly, I am so glad this year is going to be over. While we had a few highs, the lows have been incredibly painful. What is it that Miley Cyrus said, “It’s the climb.”? Yes, I’m quoting a Miley song, but there is truth in those words. I feel as if I’ve learned more through all the pain that has happened this year than I have in quite some time. In the end, I’m a better person for it all. Wishing for the best in the new year for everyone.
I Learned:
1. I’m usually the one that bends. I still can’t be sure if that’s a good thing or not. ( Now, I’m not a pushover, but I find that I have gotten to be very flexible. Sometimes people don’t like certain places, foods, etc and I’ll just go where ever they want to go and make things easier. It would have to be horrible for me to say no to it.)
2. The jokes about getting old are getting old. ( I’m in my forties and just tapped out on all the jokes about getting old. Age is just a number and while there might be some challenges for some people it can also be a blessing. )
3. Life is better when you realize that things aren’t what you thought, but are what you want them to be. (Think about this one. Do you get it?)
4. There is joy in crossing that last thing off your list. ( I admit I write myself tiny little notes and end up with lists all over the place. This year I made it a goal to focus all of my energy to one thing at a time. It hasn’t always been successful, but when it has it is pure joy. I want more of this feeling! )
5. My cousin was right about me saying I wasn’t a good baker because I just don’t like it. ( I can bake the Hell out of things. I just don’t because in all honesty, baking scares the Hell out of me. The fail factor is huge and I still battle with wanting things to be perfect. There I said it. )
6. While we are planning to downsize in the future, I have been getting rid of clutter. It feels good every time I pack boxes for the thrift store to donate. We have accumulated too many things. It feels good to let go of stuff.
7. What’s your side of a failing relationship? The relationship with your friend. I had a few relationships fall apart or fade away this year. ( Take ownership and move on)
8. Try looking at things from a different point of view. ( When you don’t understand where someone is coming from, ask questions. There you might find your answer and it might not seem as strange. )
9. Just because you haven’t spoken to someone in a long time doesn’t mean that you should be afraid to reach out to them. ( If you think about someone send them a message. Take the risk.)
10. Above all, I have learned that through all the struggles I am raising two good people. They aren’t perfect and we celebrate that as well. I Love this time of the year.
Walter Milani says
I’m not a big Tanya Tucker fan, but since your quoting song lyrics:
“There’s a tree out in the backyard
That never has been broken by the wind
And the reason its still standing
It was strong enough to bend”
I really believe in that. I just find rigid people really selfish and a real pain in the ass especially when it comes time to choose a restaurant or to give in a little and see where the other person’s views on a topic might have some validity.